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Attitude Adjustments
Brian Mashburn
June 13, 2010
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Attitude
“You need an attitude adjustment!”
There would be no way to count how many times these words have rung out of the mouths of people when dealing with other people. And in almost every case that I’ve heard them used, whether towards me or someone else, they rang true.
When I was interviewing Brad about what kind of issues he finds himself repeatedly addressing in his marriage counseling, attitude floated to the top as one of the most significant. The attitude that a person possesses can make or break a marriage.
Attitude is so powerful, in fact, that persons with the wrong attitude have messed up their marriages with the most wonderful of spouses. Likewise, persons with the right attitude have salvaged, saved, and created healthy marriages with some of the most challenging of spouses.
What is your attitude in your marriage?
Now don’t skip over that question too quickly. Slow down and sit with it a minute. Don’t assume you know the answer at the depth that it goes, if you’ll let it go deep.
Today we are going to talk about some of the areas that, depending on what your attitude is about them, is making or breaking your marriage.
When you’re driving a car, you must make steering adjustments in order to keep going where you want to go and avoid causing a car wreck.
In the same way, we need to make attitude adjustments if we want our marriages to go where our hearts long for them to go, and quite frankly, to avoid causing a marriage wreck.
The Bible sets forth a standard that defines the ultimate goal for all of us concerning our attitude when Paul writes that “your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.” (Phil 2:5).
Wow.
If you have it in you, ask your spouse this week to answer a question for you: “What do you think my attitude is toward our marriage?”
Neither God nor your spouse will mind you needing attitude adjustments, but both will mind if you don’t ever make any. The adjustment should be to be more like Christ’s.